Tuesday, August 16, 2011

9 years later

Today marks 9 years that John and I have been married.


What a year it has been! It has been one of those years that either makes or breaks you and we have been determined to make it!

When I got back from living in CA we decided to do some marriage counseling not only to deal with the grief we were facing but also because of all the little things that build up over 9 years. We were determined to break negative cycles and clean out our marriage closet so to speak.

It has taken a lot of humility to face our faults and strength to be willing to make changes. It has taken a lot of forgiveness to move past old offenses and patterns.
It has taken courage and sacrifice, but it has been so worth it!

The longer I have been married the more I have realized that marriage is not easy. Its constant hard work and sacrifice. But when both partners are willing to be loving and selfless there is nothing in this world sweeter than having someone who is your safe place to land at the end of the day. Literally, snuggled up next to John with my head nestled in the crook of his shoulder is one of my favorite places to be.

I am so grateful that we took the time this year to give our marriage a tune up. It has not been easy but I can already see how valuable it has been! This morning John gave me the most beautiful analogy about growth and purpose and expressed that while this has been one of the toughest years how we have never been at such a good place together. And its true.


There is strength in humility.

I use to wish that we could recapture the sparks of first kisses and the anticipation of newly dating, but I wouldn't trade that for what we have now. We have found security, peace, and unconditional love in one another and that is its own kind of wonderful thrill.

Thank you John for being the man you are and helping me become the woman I want to be!


4 comments:

Dominique said...

Lisa,
This is such a wonderful post. Thank you for articulating so well what marriage is about.
"I use to wish that we could recapture the sparks of first kisses and the anticipation of newly dating, but I wouldn't trade that for what we have now. We have found security, peace, and unconditional love in one another and that is its own kind of wonderful thrill." So often people give up on their marriages when those first flutters subside and miss out on the true blessings that marriage can bring. We have been married nearly 10 years and I love my husband more than I ever could have thought. Thank you for your beautiful message today. And Happy Anniversary!!!
xoxo,
Dominique
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SLO Rober said...

Congrats guys!

Marci Wittwer Butterfield said...

Great post!! Congrats on the 9 years.

Pam (Haslem) Dana said...

Yes, beautiful post! Love you guys! Happy Anniversary!